It’s an open secret that most guys build a secret crush for a girl at some point of their life. Did you know that 48% of men are more likely to fall in love at first sight as compared to 28% girls? Inspite of that you would see that no matter how big a champion you are amongst your peers, when you encounter your dream crush, you tend to behave like a mouse! You would feel as if you are lacking your vibrant self-image and exhibiting a very awkward aura. On the contrary, you might have a bunch of female friends who are constantly complimenting you on your looks, smartness, attitude or talent. But when it comes to approaching that girl of your dreams, the whole world turns upside down for you!

7 Tips To Confidently Meet Your Dream Girl

But don’t blame it on the stars! The above psychological situation is a result of lack of confidence, energy and a negative state of mind and is referred to as ‘Approach anxiety’. Although there is no reason to go overboard with this problem if you suffer from it, yet you should of course, try and overcome it. The best part is the problem is created by none other than you. Thus, you inadvertently own the power to solve it!

National Institute of Mental health, Maryland has revealed, “Anxiety Disorders affect about 40 million American adults age 18 years and older (about 18%) in a given year, causing them to be filled with fearfulness and uncertainty.”

The fact sheet of Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) reveals, “Anxiety disorders cost the U.S. more than $42 billion a year, almost one-third of the country’s $148 billion total mental health bill, according to “The Economic Burden of Anxiety Disorders,” a study commissioned by ADAA (The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 60(7), July 1999)”.

So how could you beat this problem? Let’s explore some of the best ways you may overcome approach anxiety:

  • Stop over thinking Too Much: It might happen that when you approach an attractive lady, you get racing heartbeat, sweaty palms, defensive body language such as crossing your arms, loss of words. Above all, you start giving yourself lame excuses such as, “She might already have a boyfriend and hence, she will never entertain me…”. The very first thing that you need to do when you approach the attractive lady is to simply stop thinking so much. Remember that your mind is the worst enemy that you can have in this regard!
  • Boost your confidence level: A male mind tends to be very logical and practical. It is natural for a woman to respond to a rational person. Thus, even if you feel nervous, you should never lose confidence in yourself. Being an intelligent person, there is no reason that you would not be able to behave smartly when it comes to encountering an unknown young woman.
  • Don’t waste time: When you come across the dream girl of yours, the more you take time, greater would be the weird thoughts that would cloud your mind. You just need to make a move without wasting much time! You may feel that your approach anxiety from inside is pushing you, compelling you to face a lion! But you just have to go for it!
  • Convince yourself that it is no ‘big deal’: When you like a girl and want to go ahead and talk to her, before approach anxiety stops you from doing it, mind you that you are not going to disarm a bomb. You have to reiterate this logical thought and convince yourself that it is no big deal. Meeting a cute girl of your choice won’t bring in any dire consequences for which you need to take a back seat instead of approaching her. Tell yourself that she is just a girl and not a dentist and that, it is just a mental block which you need to overcome.
  • Overcome fear: One major emotion that is found to stop guys from approaching attractive girls is fear. Fear of rejection, of verbal abuse and also of physical violence can fuel approach anxiety. You have to permanently erase this irrational fear from your mind if you intend to beat approach anxiety.
  • Calm your amygdala: At the back of our heads, each one of us has a tiny part of the brain called the amygdala. Amygdala activates the fight-or-fight reaction and fills your body with adrenaline thereby keeping you away from danger. So when you encounter an attractive woman and your approach anxiety tries to be a deterrent, you should try and calm your amygdala.
  • Do not always go by facial expressions: Malcolm Gladwell, the New Yorker writer had once stated that people often draw many conclusions in less than three seconds. People have the tendency whereby if they do not see positive things such a smile, openness in body language, laughter etc. then they automatically assume that they are in for social rejection. You should keep this in mind and never be in such a hurry to judge the girl even before you talk to her.

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